Things to ponder

I was catching up on my blogs that I like to read today when I came across a post that echoed my own recent experiences with an individual. 

The writer spoke about "Givers and Takers" and how she learned that being a Giver is being more self aware and that it is definitely something you learn either from a parent, a personality trait or through life and that real Takers are pretty clueless individuals that never seem to learn. 

They spoke of a long time friend that only ever called to unload THEIR problems, wants, and needs on them and would hang up without ever inquiring about them in an entire two hour conversation and how with the last phone call they simply said at the end to the Taker "Oh, I've been horribly rude.  I haven't let you get a word in edge wise.  How are you? What have you been up to?" and proceeded to hang up without the Taker's response.  I thought this was totally awesome. 

I applaud those that help themselves, who take a stand.  This post reminded me that it is okay to put people in their place when necessary and that if the circumstances indicate it, to remove them from your life entirely. 

I have begun to do just that.  I am removing the dead weights, "Takers", users, manipulators, and anyone who is NOT a positive for me and mine out of my life.  Life is stressful and can be hard enough without all of that extra baggage. 

I've always been comfortable being me and I know that "me" does not fit the standard norm of what people expect which is probably why my friends are Few But True (I just totally made that Few But True up and it ROCKS!  At least I've never heard this little phrase.).  My life on the other hand is quite normal and that is awesome, as I've always thought of a normal life as a good, stable, and happy one. 
Honestly, I envied some of my friends this...their childhoods fit this and mine so DID NOT but I digress. 

If you can make your life less stressful and more enjoyable by dumping some excess baggage, then do.  It will definitely be worth it.